Suicide Is Not The Answer – A Musical Reassurance
I was speaking with a friend recently who was struggling with… well, life. And while my friend assured me they were not feeling suicidal, it did get me thinking about how depression can trick you into devaluing everything, including yourself.
Everybody gets low at some point.
Please read that sentence again. Everybody gets low at some point. Everybody.
E V E R Y B O D Y.
It’s important to remember that you’re not alone, even when you can’t necessarily see other people’s struggles. With that in mind, I’ve gathered a few of my favorite songs that remind me that I’m not an anomalous freak. And neither are you.
First up, we have Blink-182’s Adam’s Song. I’ve placed it first because I think this one does a good job of saying the things that a lot of us won’t out loud.
“I laughed the loudest. Who’d have known?”
“I’m too depressed to go on.”
“Days when I still felt alive.”
“I never conquered.”
Adam’s Song was written by singer, Mark Hoppus, during a time when all he had to look forward to was touring with his band, and coming home held nothing for him.
Let’s take a second to look at some of the YouTube comments for the video:
These are just a handful of similar sentiments that I saw while reading the comments. If you notice the number of “thumbs ups” on the first comment, you’ll see that a lot of other people could relate to not feeling cared about.
You’ll also notice that one of the comments is incredibly rude and hurtful. There are always going to be people like this. But what really stood out to me was the next comment:
Alexis is so right. Our problems are temporary. Suicide is forever.
And suicide doesn’t just affect you. It leaves a gaping hole in everyone around you. It wasn’t all that long ago that I had nearly convinced myself that my family would be unburdened without me to drag them down.
That brings us to the next song…
Rise Above This
Rise Above This was written by vocalist Shaun Morgan, to encourage his depressed brother. Sadly, Shaun’s brother later lost hope and his battle with depression. Here’s an excerpt from the Wikipedia entry for the song:
The music video… debuted on… April 5, 2008. During filming, the band had to try performing three times due to Morgan’s difficulty keeping from sobbing. The video’s storyline revolves around a depressed boy who decides to leap off a building. As he falls, his family falls with him. Through the course of falling they try to overcome their problems and eventually bounce back up. It has a Suicide Hotline number at the end of the video on television airings in America as well as a picture of Shaun Morgan’s younger brother.
I want to leave you with one last song.
Never Too Late
Singer Adam Gontier has said, “this song is about being in a very dark place, but being able to see a way out,” and “feeling like you don’t belong here, and wanting to give up, but never giving up.”
No matter how dark things get, there is always a reason to go on. If you ever find yourself at a point where you just can’t bring yourself to try any more, please make this one phone call:
No matter what problems you are dealing with, we want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
Bonus Song: New Day
Because “the sun will shine after the rain.”